Friday, November 30, 2012

Working on a better marriage..... 30 ways to love your hubs.

I'm trying to be a better wife. You will read alot for me about trying hard to be a better wife and a better Mama.

Thirty things to do that will re-new your love. That rut that most of us get into. I want to be the couple in our 80's getting visits from my son's their wives and grandchildren and maybe even a few great grandchildren thrown in there somewhere.

The first thing I started to do was admire him with my eyes when he walked in the door. I gave him a hug and mentioned how great he smelled. Let me tell you--that my man smells awesome! I remembered that was the first thing I would remember with the hug we would share when we were releaving eachother at work.  The second thing I did was that I leaned over the back of the his chair after dinner, kissed him on the neck. that's where I started and it went on from there.

This morning, when my husband got up for work (he gets up earlier than any of us) he walked over to my side of the bed, bent over, and whispered in my ear, "You're my best friend. The best I've ever had."

Isn't that about the sweetest thing you've ever heard? I thought so!

And so I've decided to put together a list called 30 Ways show Your Husband you love him.

Of course all husbands are different and each one speaks their own love language, but perhaps this list will spark a few ideas in you. There are 30 of them so if you're inclined to, you might want to challenge yourself by trying a new one each day.
  1. Give him direct eye contact when you're talking to him and say something encouraging.
  2. Stop to hug him when you pass by his way.
  3. Ask him if there's any thing he'd like you to pray for.
  4. Wear an outfit that he likes on you or a color he loves on you.  
  5. Reach for his hand when you're driving or walking.
  6. Ask him if he'd like anything when you make a trip to the kitchen. ( I have a bad habbit of asking him to get me things instead and its a bad thing to do.
  7. Pick him up a little treat at the store.  ( favorite candy, coffee creamer, something small.)
  8. Organize his space. This could be anything from his office desk to his side table of his bed. Show him you've been there and you're loving on him.
  9. Make his favorite meal or dessert. ( Maybe both)
  10. Leave a little note someplace creative like lipstick on the mirror in your bathroom or a nice card in his book he is reading.
  11. Offer to do something that you know he enjoys doing. ( get a babysitter and watch the game with him)
  12. Send him a romantic email or text.
  13. Offer him a word of encouragement by saying something positive.
  14. Say something positive about him to others when you're together.
  15. Listen to him when he's stressed. You might not have a solution, but listening goes a long way.
  16. Thank him for being supportive.
  17. Encourage him by taking an interest in his hobbies.
  18. Comment on some of the good decisions he's made.
  19. Let him know that you respect and admire his leadership.
  20. What makes him unique? Point it out to him! That's so much better than comparison.
  21. Hold back on the nagging. Bite your lip if you must, and communicate your thoughts with patience.
  22. Take time to greet him when he arrives and see him off when he leaves.
  23. Is there a tool or an electronic he's been wanting to buy? If it's within reason, sit down and work it into your budget.
  24. Surprise him by doing one of his regular chores before he gets a chance like shoveling the walk or mowing the lawn.
  25. Be happy. More than anything else your attitude will go a long way in setting his.
  26. Cut arguments short by letting go of your need to be right. Wait until you both cool down and communicate your thoughts with patience and kindness.
  27. Ralax and let yourself laugh. Have fun with him.
  28. Write a love message on the toilet paper roll with sharpie. No doubt it will make him smile.
  29. Hold his hand when you fall asleep.
  30. When he's lying in bed or on the couch, bend over and whisper in his ear, "You're the best friend I've ever had."

You are loved by an almighty God,


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