Sunday, April 3, 2011

What would we do.......

Here were are another week closer to be holding you, loving you, With you everyday and spending all the important moments in life with you. 
Knowing how much we love you already Daddy & I started talking a week ago about what would happen to you if something happened to us? As of right now you go to your Grandparents, but they don't want you full time they want to be your grandparents.  They were wonderful parents to me the kind of parents that Daddy and I want to be to you. 

Where do we place you if something happens to us? My heart breaks to even think this, but we all know stranger things have happened so we want to be prepared. Where do we start? We talked to our Attorney the other day with a will and life insurance policy we go in the first part of May to get it all down officially.  

We have wonderful family that we could surly place you safely with. We have many great friends that we would feel the same way with you in their lives. I can tell you that this is what we want for you, we don't want you to go to family, for one reason, our families don't get along with each other & we would very much want you to spend time with these family members that love you equally. We want to make sure that you never stay un supervised with some people and others can have you over for the entire summer.  We want our dearest friends to still have you part of their lives & enjoy you without us here.  We want to make sure that you do the things that we would want you to do as if we were still here.  

I have a bucket list with things that daddy & I both want to make sure that in your 18 years in raising you that you are able to do these things, 

We want you to go camping alot especially to Kalaloch. This is a place that has been so special to Mommy and your Papa Franks family. This is where the love of camping & the love of being with my grandparents grew even more.  

We want you to travel as much as you can, to travel and be able to see as much as the world ( that is safe) as you can. 

We want you to find your own way to a religion that you choose to be part of, I don't care what you choose as long as you are safe. Try them all and find the one that speaks to your spirit. 

Daddy would like you to learn how to cook, clean and take care of yourself.  To finish what you start, no matter what it is you can't give up. 

If you start baseball and half way though the season you want to quit, unless its causing you harm in any way you must follow through. we want you to enjoy all sports even if you can't play like mommy, we would love for you to try anything and everything that you can. 

You can't get tattoos until you are 21 ( you will change 100 times between your 18th birthday and your 26th birthday wait till all those or most of those changes happen don't get one!) 

You can not date a 40 year old when you are in your 20!!  
Marry for love not money, even though the money part would be easier the love is more important. Do what Daddy & I did and marry your best friend. 

We want you to have your Daddy's sister Auntie Tina take you around Bainbridge and show you all the places we once lived, played and where you grandma and grandpa Cragerud lay at rest. Make sure she tells you all the amazing traditions our family had. She will show you where he went to school, played. & truly enjoyed his childhood on the Island. 

I want you to go with your Grandma & Papa Longmate and be part of the family, there is truly nothing that means more to me. then be a part of your history. 

The love of our animals we want you to love animals as well. start small with a gold fish or hamster and learn what having something that relys on you.  Be kind to all animals, then they will be kind to you. 

Last one for today, I am sure I will think of many many more to list but your best friends are much more important then your boyfriend or girlfriend. The greatest heart break you will ever feel is the loss of a friendship. The guy/girl that you date in school will almost 99.9 percent will not be the person you marry and have a life with this is important for you to know, learn something from every relationship that you are in and take that with you. 

So with that we think we know who we want you to be with. We want you to be with two of our best friends, they have children, and have great jobs, they raise their kids close to the way in which we would want to raise you. They would teach you so much about us, being that they know so much about us and love us anyway. Over the years this is the "bonus" family you will be part of you will know them as Uncle & Auntie. We will travel with them, we will camp with them, we will have slumber parties and you will do things with Daddy & Uncle like sports & starwars and Mommy & auntie will teach you how to shop & enjoy theater and the arts!  Between the four of us and the other kids you will learn so much and be such a loved little person. You wont just have us cheering you on with all that you do but will be cheered on by Auntie & Uncle. We would say their name in this post but we will be going to them and asking what we would like them to do for us.

Now this isn't going to happen but we will always be prepared with how we want to have things set up for you! We love you baby G always and forever your heart belongs to me. 

I know that they will protect you and they will make sure that your family has a big part of your lives as well. That is important to us. They are close with most of your family already and over the next few months they will get to know them all so much more. 

Love you, 


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